Sunday March 7 Taking Care Of The Boys

(Walking In The Sunshine) Please click to play.

It was a day of sunshine with Davey, Derek and Jackson even though the clouds hung overhead.

After church I went back to their house and watched the boys while Sarah napped. Jackson slept for a long time and I sat outside while Davey and Derek rode their bikes and Davey practiced moves on his scooter.

Here are some pictures from our nice afternoon.

Derek being really scary

Derek making a funny face


Derek being his sweet self

Derek surrounded by snow thanks to gramma's handiwork

Up and down the driveway

Derek on his bike and Davey on his coveted scooter

Davey practicing on his scooter

Davey in action

Davey loves his new helmet

Jackson woke up from his nap to yummy pepperoni pizza

Jackson really really liked his pizza

Man oh man.......was that good!

And, that was the day the boys and I had while mommy napped!

Cute Little Video After Bed Shopping

After shopping for beds, Sarah, Jackson and I went to Perkins for lunch. During lunch Sarah called Joe in Ireland and Jackson had to talk to him. Just imagine....a little 20 month old boy in Minnesota talking to his Godfather in Ireland. The wonders of technology! Jackson is so cute! And, he loves the phone!

Bed Shopping And Room Setup For Sarah's Recovery

What could be more exciting than deciding to put a king size adjustable bed in your living room? Not a lot. Not a lot if you are me. Well, if I stop to think about it I could maybe think of some other things....but this last week that was exactly my mission.

I invited Sarah to join me for the bed shopping. I knew where I wanted to go. I was headed, on Wednesday morning last (that phrasing is so Irish...thank you Joe) , to the factory direct store Comforest, U.S.A. The owner introduced adjustable beds thirty five years ago and they make the beds right there. They have designed their mattress specifically to work on the adjustable base and will custom design the base to specifications to fit the buyer's body within certain parameters.

I ended up purchasing a bed which I knew I would do. Once I tried it I was SOLD!

Sarah will be sleeping on it during her recovery and then it will be moved up to my bedroom. I bet there just might be some nights that I sleep with her so I can take care of her throughout the night.

Dave might spend some nights at home with the boys and get them off to school if they want to keep a little more normal routine....at least some of the time. (Our meeting with Dr. Migliori was so positive that Sarah's recovery seems like it will be shorter and easier than we once thought).

The bed was delivered yesterday. Below are some pictures that show the initial setup and the finished room from different angles.

There is enough room for people to sit and visit and to walk on either side of the bed. The colors are soft and Sarah will be able to have it as dark or light as she wants and with as much privacy as she wants. I was so pleased with how it turned out.



The king size bed has dual x long twin mattresses. The wheels lock and the beds stay together yet can be moved apart easily to make the bed.

The edges of the mattress are designed so even though they meet in the middle you can't feel the split or where they meet. This allows each mattress to be adjusted individually.

Each base can be built to fit partners of different heights and weights. So a 6 ft person living with a 5 ft person would have different bases. I think that is so slick. Each side has a wireless remote so each person can raise and/or lower the head and foot as desired.

We put sheer panels on the glass french doors so Sarah can have privacy even if people are in the adjoining fireplace room. They look so airy and soft and do just what I wanted them to do.

This is the view into the new room from the front door hallway. It is nice because there are solid french doors that can be closed for privacy.

This is how the new sheers look from the fireplace room. They give a nice sense of privacy without feeling like you are being closed off from where people will be when Sarah is resting.

You might wonder what I did with some of the furniture that is usually in my living room. Two wingback chairs and an antique chest were moved into my formal dining room.

I found places for them that make the dining room look ok too. I really didn't want any of the rooms in the house to look like they were storage rooms. I don't think they do.

The two wingback chairs fit perfectly in beside the buffet. That made me really happy.


And, the antique chest went right where it always goes at Christmas time. That was a perfect fit.

Maybe it seems funny to have such a focus right now.

My daughter has cancer.

Saying those words creates feelings of fear and helplessness. When I knew I could bring her and her family home it gave me hope, joy and strength. I felt somehow empowered.

There was something I could control. It felt good. It still does.

The thought of hearing Sarah's sounds in my house, whatever they may be, helps me breathe. Sarah has good sounds. She has a great laugh and I know I will hear it beyond the pain that I know is going to accompany us on this journey.

Creating Sarah's recovery room gave me something to do. I am a doer when I experience a loss or have a fear of a loss. And, boy, did I do! I can now walk toward next week with a sense that everything is going to be ok. And, I know it is. Dr. Migliori has every confidence it will be too.

Every time I read that last sentence I breathe.

Dr. Migliori has confidence it will be ok.

Surgery is Friday, March 12th. And, tomorrow I will go to Sarah's church and hear her read scripture and go home with her and help with the boys.

It will be the beginning of the week that I am entrusting my child to the people who will take care of her when I can't.

God knows too. God will be taking care of all of us. Into Thy hands we commend ourselves.

Getting Ready

I know it is already late and I am on my way to bed. I know I haven't written anything for a day...maybe two...I don't remember.

I worked hard today. I am getting the front room ready for Sarah to come home to recover. I am going to put a bed in the front room. I bought a new bed. It is a Kingsize Comforest Adjustable bed. It has two twin mattresses. Dave will be able to sleep beside her and not disturb her. The boys will, in time, be able to be on one mattress...close to their mom, and not disturb her.

I have bought room darkening shades...sort of .. that I can block out the light in the room. The room can be shut off with french doors.

This is what I can do. I can create a quiet, dark when needed, serene recovery room for my child. I will put a baby monitor in that room so I will be able to hear her if she needs anything.

I can do things. I wish I could take it away. I can't.

Gonna Bring Them Home

It is 12:37 p.m. Just after noon. I am smiling. I am happy. I am relieved. The sun is shining. I talked to Sarah.

I made a suggestion. I said, "I would like you to think about coming here after the hospital for your recovery.....all of you."

She talked to Dave. Dave said, "What a blessing and a gift."

We will figure it out....how to get the boys to school...where everyone will sleep....food...someone will always be here with her.....we will make sure of that.....the problems to solve feel simple now...at least to me.

Now, I am in my element. I am Sarah's mom and I am bringing my daughter and her family home. I can hardly breathe. I am bringing them all home. They are my family and I am bringing them home.

Life's Curbs

What was yesterday? Oh, yes. It was Monday. I can't remember. I thought I didn't talk to Sarah yesterday. Except for late last night. But, I did. She called in the morning to tell me Dr. Migliori's office called. We are going to see Dr. Migliori this Friday. Friday, March 2, 2010.

It was the call we were waiting for. It was a wait that lasted from Friday to Monday. Time has no meaning. Yes, it does. Time means everything right now.

The meeting with Dr. Migliori is the beginning of the next.....how many weeks and maybe months?

Dr. Migliori is the plastic surgeon. Sarah, Dave and I will talk with him about the choice Sarah wants for her reconstruction surgery. He will talk with Dr. Bretzke and then the hospital operating room will be scheduled for her bilateral mastectomy.

It is what we are waiting for. It is what we don't want to be waiting for.

The breast center called Sarah yesterday too. They have scheduled her to meet with the oncologist on Friday, March 26. His name is Dr. Zander. I think that is what Sarah told me late last night. Maybe he isn't a he but a she. We have been told that meeting usually comes two weeks after surgery. That would mean surgery will probably be next week or early in the next week.

Facts...guesses...it is what we have for today...

Except for curbs...I have curbs....life curbs.........

The things that keep me from going over the edge....you know like the curbs along a narrow two lane road in the old days...now the curbs have been replaced with those bumpy things that make noise when you veer too far to the side of the road.....or are coming up to a stop.

My curbs..........family, friends, faith, hope, belief, age, wisdom, laughter, my funny way of seeing things...........curbs........the things that keep me mostly in the center of the road......and the sunshine...and when the sun isn't shining....the sky......

The sky giving me a kiss and a hug.......I love the sky

As I write I am getting back inside myself. I was outside myself when I started. I write and I heal. I think. I feel. And, then I can do. And, I am doing this with my daughter.

She calls me. She has a thought and the phone rings. We talk.

I am back now. I can say that with a smile. It is time to do what I can do for today.

It Has Been One Week...Picture And Sound Track At Bottom

It has been a week...one week...one week...one incredible week..since we learned Sarah has cancer.

I went to the grocery store yesterday. Now, I have been to the grocery store hundreds...maybe even thousands of times..I know my way around a grocery store.

But, yesterday I found myself walking down the aisles, getting to the end and wondering if I needed anything from that aisle. I don't know how many times I backtracked. I had to close my eyes and reopen them to see the items on the shelves. I had to make myself focus. It just goes to show that something we have done successfully hundreds, and maybe even thousands of times, doesn't always come naturally.

So, today is Monday. It is the day we have been waiting for. Today is the day we hope to hear from Dr. Migliori, the plastic surgeon. He is the man we want to hear from. How things proceed depend on his call. He is the next step. He is the next step in our journey to our destination.

The destination............getting it gone...getting it out....being without it...it...it..it..the cancer.

It has been one week...one incredible week...

Here is how it happened..here is what led up to our one incredible week...I don't even know if that sentence makes any sense...keep reading...it might...

2/11 - routine mammogram

2/17 - call to come in and get a 2nd mammogram

2/18 - 2nd mammogram, ultrasound, biopsy

2/22 - diagnosed with breast cancer (the start of our one incredible week)

2/23 - breast MRI

2/25 - met with surgeon, had chest Xray and blood work done

3/1 - monday is finally here and we will be expecting to...
get a call from the plastic surgeon...Dr. Migliori

meet with Dr. Migliori

Dr. Migliori will consult with Dr. Bretzke...the surgeon

they will coordinate their schedules with the operating room availability at Abbott Northwestern Hospital....Sarah's total time in the operating room will be about four hours

Sarah will undergo a sentinel node biopsy to check for any nodes that are affected...a simple mastectomy (bilateral) and reconstruction surgery

prior to surgery Sarah will schedule a pre-op

Sarah will have surgery...time in the hospital will depend on the kind of reconstruction chosen as will the recovery time

Sarah will then have an appointment to meet with an oncologist

Further treatment will depend on what is learned in the surgery

It has been one week...yes...one incredible week and the journey hasn't even really begun yet..amazing......it is like we have just been looking at the map...the map of where we are going and deciding the route we will take...it has been one week!

But, yesterday Kara, Sarah, Dave, Davey, Derek and Jackson came over to the house. I had food. Yep..I had food. Buy food and they will come : )

And, before they went home Davey wanted us all to go up to the Thomas the Train room with the magic lights and be together. (Kara had already gone home by then)

We made a love pile on the bed. All of us, except Grandpa who had the camera, made a love pile.

We laughed and talked and laughed. Then we laughed some more. And, we were together. That is how we do things.

There were six in the bed and the little one said..."I want to jump on Gramma!"

(Sound track from our love pile last night)

The Emotional Tsunami

(Dante's Prayer) Please click to play

Dear God.........Give us.....

it is coming

our peaceful shore is going to be hit

wave by wave

some big

some small

it has not even been a week

we have done a lot

to prepare

we can't stop it

it is coming

even when we don't see the waves

we feel them just below the surface

it is brewing

rumbling

building speed

and power

we are going to be hit

it is coming

it has to come

so it can be over

(I wrote this today in response to emotions that are starting to surface and come in waves as our family faces Sarah's cancer....our family is weathering its own tsunami...)

Gramma Is Available

Sarah, Dave, Davey (6) Jackson (20 months) and Derek (4)


It was 10:10 a.m. and the phone rang.

Gramma........."Hello"

Davey......"Hi"

Gramma....."Hi Punkin! How's my punkin today?"

Davey........"I'm glad you're available."

Gramma...."I'm here honey."

Davey......"I don't want to be alone."

Gramma....."How come?"

Davey....."I'm scared."

Gramma......"Ok darling. I'll be here."

It's 11:10 a.m.

Punkin and I are still together.

He is playing computer games and I am listening.

Every now and then he says something.

I clip my cordless phone onto my shirt and go about the things I think I need to get done.

They will get done.

They always do.

First I will be a gramma.

Life is changing at his house.

I am glad I am available.

Today Turned Out To Be A Good Day

If I start at the beginning of today.........I did not want to wake up or get up or get ready or go to the meeting with the surgeon. I felt exhausted and sick to my stomach. The question of "what will we hear?" loomed big in my mind and filled my air with fear.

Funny how we find ourselves able to wake up, get up, get ready and actually go......why? Because we have to. Because facing our fears is the only way we will find out the real story. And, maybe, just maybe.....the real story won't be as bad as the one we are afraid of.

So, I went.

I went to the Piper Breast Center.

I went to meet the surgeon who will take care of Sarah. I went to be an extra pair of ears and set of eyes. I went to be with my daughter and Dave. I went because there is no other place I wanted to be.


I was there first. Sarah and Dave were on their way. I was greeted by two lovely and kind ladies who made being there ok. One lady was Sybil and she took this picture of me. She also brought me some orange juice to drink in a pretty glass. It made me smile. The other lady was Judy and both their smiles brought a bit of sunshine into a day that felt a little dark.

Sarah had had a pedicure and manicure last night. She had Dave's and the boy's names put on her nails. Every finger and every toe is touched by love. Davey picked out the color for her toenails. It is a lovely, lovely bright blue. Now that makes me smile!

Sarah loved the nurse who came in to take her medical history. Her name was Karen. Sarah told her she was pretty and had soft hands. Sarah told her, "I just want to touch you." Sarah tells people what she is thinking. Isn't that nice? The world needs Sarah!

It was hard to wait. We all wanted the surgeon to come in and we didn't want her to come in. I looked at Sarah and saw agony. I saw my scared child....my beautiful scared child. I could only love her.

We heard a knock on the door. It was the doctor. Dr. Bretzke. The one who would tell us the story...the real story.

The real story is better than the one we were afraid of. We were afraid one of the cancers in her right breast was attached to the chest wall. It wasn't! It wasn't! It wasn't!

I could only stare at Dr. Bretzke. Sarah made a sound of exclamation and put her hands to her head. I watched her face flood with emotion and her eyes fill with tears. Dr. Bretzke kept talking.

I put my hand on Dr. Bretzke's knee and said, "Stop, we have to take a moment to feel this...to enjoy it..to celebrate it..........we have to!"

I had to breathe.

I had to touch Sarah.

This was not just information.

This was LIFE being given back to me........LIFE being given back to Sarah.......LIFE being given back to Dave.......LIFE being given back to Davey and Derek and Jackson and all the people who love Sarah.

Dr. Bretzke told us about the surgery she will be doing. It will be a simple mastectomy. A bilateral mastectomy. Sarah wants peace of mind. Sarah will have breast reconstructive surgery as well.



So, now we wait until probably Monday when Dr. Migliori, the plastic surgeon, will call and make an appointment for a consultation. If I start at the beginning of that day, I will want to get up, get ready and get going. That appointment will be like moving into the future.

I have a funny feeling I will be putting a picture of Sarah hugging Dr. Migliori on my blog sometime next week. What do you think?

Dr. Bretzke.....I liked your story today. I have hope and faith that the final chapter of this book we are writing won't be written for a long, long time. When you told us that you expect Sarah's cancer to be Stage 1 I wanted to hug you myself. I will someday. For now, hug my daughter. She is precious to me. And, I am putting her in your hands.

The goal of Piper Breast Center......is.....To return YOU to your life the best way we know!

Uncharacteristically Quiet

Maybe if I don't write about it, it won't be true.

Could that be?

I can talk about it.

I can read about it.

I am not sleeping very well.

Three nights ago I woke up at 4:17 a.m.

Two nights ago I woke up at 3:15 a.m.

Last night I woke up at 2:52 a.m.

Sometimes I might go back to sleep for short periods of time.

Mostly not.

If I keep waking up earlier and earlier I will wake up before I go to sleep.

That sort of made me laugh.

I don't laugh much right now.

Nothing is funny.

My daughter has cancer.

I sit and look at those words and feel strangely disconnected from them.

Maybe it's just the day.

I have had moments of tears.

I have seen pain in my eyes.

I have heard her voice during the days when she is just like her old self running her life.

She has three little boys.

And, a husband.

Life goes on.

Things have to be done.

She goes on.

And, sometimes naps.

I have heard her voice late at night when the things that kept her busy don't anymore.

She has feelings.

She has thoughts.

What if?

What if?

Would my boys remember me?

Nobody wants to go there.

To that place.

I know she has to.

To get beyond it.

I was supposed to keep her safe.

I am her mother.

I couldn't.

I would take it away if I could.

I would trade places if I could.

If only I could.

I don't feel strangely disconnected anymore.

My daughter has cancer.

And, I will start to tell her story.

Our story.

I love you Sarah!

Mom xo

Saturday We Pack

My sister,Linda, just called. I have been waiting. I have been waiting to help. Saturday is the day. I will call Sarah. I will be there Saturday..at Briana's apartment. It is another start. We will pack and we will help move...move Jahmari to his new home.

I have been saying to myself all night.........I can't even say it...I thought I could be done with .......

I am not....

the reality hits when you least expect....

I have been on hold..

the hold button just got pushed...

and tears come....

My Jumbled Thoughts....Part Of Briana's Story

I still can't believe Briana is gone. I keep thinking about her. I think about Christmas when it comes again. Briana is supposed to come here for Christmas. She is supposed to say, like she always did, "Oh, Judy will have plenty of food. She will have her beans and barbequed meatballs." She is supposed to stand in my kitchen and be in my way. I am supposed to hear her laugh from some other room. I keep thinking she can't be gone. She has a son. He is eleven years old.

My thoughts are jumbled. I don't know where to start. I have one thought and before I can write it another one jumps into my mind.

I was sitting in her hospital room. It was a big room. It was a double room, but she was alone. She had the bed by the window. The window was a beautiful bay window looking out over downtown Minneapolis. She didn't look out the window. I wondered if I would have if it were me in the bed.

I sat in the chair and looked at the number 26 on the calendar on the wall. It was January 26. As I stared at 26 I started writing a poem in my head. It is what I do when my world feels big and I want to bring it down to size.

It is January 26
I am going to bed with it
When I wake up
on January 27
Will I still have it?

I couldn't write anything more in my head. Something happened. A nurse came in. Briana needed something. Something was usually happening.

I wondered what it must feel like to go to bed with cancer and what it must be like to wake up the next morning. Is there a moment before a person remembers it is there?

I think I went home the night of the 26th. I remember not knowing exactly how to get home from the University of Minnesota Medical Center. Sarah talked me a little way home on her cell phone. Then I was on my own with the voice from my navigation system. I liked Sarah's voice better.

I went back on the 27th. And, stayed.

The University of Minnesota Medical Center, Ward 7C became my temporary home. It became home for a lot of Briana's family and friends. Some of us didn't feel the outside air for days. I can still see the halls, the nurses desk, the familiar faces of the nursing staff, the family lounge that we kept stocked with food and kleenex, video games for the kids and our ever present cell phones.

Technology became a virtual member of the team. Whenever anyone or anything was needed to help Briana the young people texted each other and the old folks made calls. Every member of the team could be in constant touch with another member within seconds no matter where we were in the hospital.

Briana had left some things untended to in her life that required being tended to as she faced an uncertain future. She was told she needed to take care of things because she had a ten year old son. What did that mean? What were they saying? How could that be? She was 36 years old. No!

She was told she needed to make arrangements for her son. Who would look after him? She was 36. She didn't have a will stating her wishes. She needed to have a will stating her wishes. How else would anyone know? The team had only days to make that happen. There was a window of time in which she was able to sign her name. It was one of the miracles that happened. Her wishes were made known. Had we waited just one more day, she wouldn't have had the strength.

We were all praying for a miracle. We prayed for the miracle of healing and getting better. We prayed her temperature would go down, the fever would stop, so the next round of chemotherapy could be started. It never did go away. They started chemotherapy anyway. They said it was the most powerful chemotherapy available. There was nothing else they could try.

We didn't get the miracle we had been praying for. But, oh my goodness, we got so many other miracles along the way.

One of the best miracles was the day Briana was able to get out of bed and actually sit in a chair so she could visit with her son, Jahmari. It took a monumental effort for Briana to do this. She was even able to talk with him in sentences. Both before and after this miracle she only communicated with her eyes.

We think we have an explanation for this miracle. At the same time Briana was able to be up and talking to Jahmari, a Bible study class at her church had stopped the lesson and simply prayed for her for an hour and a half.

Yes, it was the wings of prayer that lifted Briana up.

On February 2nd, Briana was moved from her big double room with the bay window to a smaller single room. It was here she would live her last hours. There was no more they could do for her. They said to visit with her. Talk to her. Tell her things. Even though her eyes were closed she may not be asleep. She could still hear us they said. Hearing is the last thing to go.

We had the praise and worship music she loved playing in her new room. We had a digital picture frame with pictures of her life close to her bed. We sat by her and held her hand. We talked about memories. She was never alone. We kept the curtains closed. The room was a room with good energy. The nurses said so. They said it felt good when they came in. It was a happy room.

When she was moved to her new room we said she was being moved to her new life. That is how it felt. It felt like we were all on the porch of her new life.

And, then, she turned and left us and went through the door to her new home as we circled her bed and held hands.

It was February 3, 2010.

Part Of Briana's Story....The Families

Briana's story is both an interesting and an inspirational story. Briana was adopted by my sister, Linda and her husband David, when she was nine weeks old I believe. Her biological mother's name is Phyllis and her biological father's name is Ivory.

Briana met both of her biological parents as a young adult and had somewhat of an ongoing relationship with Ivory. They texted, called each other on the phone and Briana and Jahmari spent a week with Ivory on at least two occasions. She also had siblings that she was able to meet and have ongoing communication.

Phyllis, Ivory and all the siblings attended her funeral. I don't know how common this bringing together of two families is, but it doesn't seem very common to me at all.

In addition, Jahmari's biological father's family was at the funeral. The father, Gene, is currently out of the country, but his wife and extended family were at the funeral. They are African and wanted to make a contribution to Briana's funeral. The video at the end of this post is them singing the benediction. It is beautiful!

To have all the families who have a connection to Briana at the funeral still expands my thinking and touches my heart. It is like Briana was in the center of a circle and all the families joined hands to surround her life in her death.

Linda and David talking to Phyllis, Briana's biological mother

Linda talking to Phyllis

Ivory, Briana's biological father...they look so much alike

Christmas Day 2009 With Briana...Part Of The Story

I had a feeling before Christmas. It was one of those things that is hard to explain. It was just a feeling. I thought to myself that this might be Briana's last Christmas.

One night, earlier in the month, I was talking to my son, Adam, on the phone. He told me they were going to be spending Christmas Day alone. I said, "You could come here." Not only didn't I want them spending Christmas Day alone in South Carolina, but I wanted them all here. I wanted my whole family here this Christmas.

I had a feeling. It had to happen. We had to be together. We made it happen. They came.

Then the snow came. It came and came and we hoped and prayed everyone would be able to be here. And, perhaps it was a miracle. I don't know. But, everyone was able to be here.

Christmas Day 2009 was special. We were all together. All of us, (including Joe from Ireland, who was in NJ that day) had chipped in some money to give Briana and Jahmari a nice Christmas.

Below are three videos from Christmas Day. Briana passed on to her new life February 3, 2010. So much happened in such a short time.

The Day After

(Dante's Prayer) Please click to play.

Today is Sunday, February 7, 2010. It is the day after Briana's funeral and two days after the visitation. It is also Briana's son, Jahmari's, birthday. The last two sentences take my breath away.

Today is Jahmari's 11th birthday. He didn't want to celebrate his birthday today. He didn't want to celebrate his birthday the day after his mother's funeral. I don't know what he will choose to do. His grandma and grandpa, his mom's parents, are with him.

None of us will be the same. Briana was so loved and brought such laughter, humor, understanding and compassion to her world. Even the nurses at the hospital fought over who was going to take care of her.

Below is a picture of one of Briana's most beloved nurses. Her name is Natalie. Natalie only looks like a person but she is really an angel. She was with those of us who were fortunate to be at Briana's bedside as Briana stepped through the door to her new heavenly home. In the stillness of the moment Natalie gently reached down to take Briana's pulse and then quietly listened to her heart. And, then Natalie spoke the words........

"She is in heaven now."

Natalie at the visitation

How often does a nurse come to a visitation? I don't know. She came up to me and my eyes flooded with tears and poor Natalie.......I grabbed her cheeks with my hands, held her captive in the palms of my hands, and just looked and looked at her. I could only say, "Oh, Natalie! Oh, Natalie! You came!" My heart ached with happiness! I had to pull her toward me and hug her and hug her and hug her! She was there with us all like it was meant to be. "Natalie darling, I hope you know what your coming meant to all of us! You are very special and you have a wonderful gift to give. We are so thankful for you!"

And, below is a picture of my 97 year old father, Briana's grandpa, signing the guest book at the visitation. He spoke a few words at the cemetery the following day as we stood in the cold and the snow. He said,

"Briana, it was wonderful to have your company for 36 years. We will miss you. We love you. Bye, bye. Amen."

And, then we sang the doxology. Praise God from whom all blessings flow............

My dad.....I love this picture

There is so much to write.

There is a story to tell.

Our experience over the last, what has it been now? Close to two weeks? There wasn't time to feel or understand. There was only time to do what needed to be done next.

Yes, there is a story to be told and perhaps as the pieces of the story get told others might benefit. Briana would like that!

Briana

(Winter Light by Linda Ronstadt) Please click to play

Briana at the U of M Medical Center days before she passed through the door to her new life

At 11:45 a.m. on February 3, 2010 our dear Briana entered her new life. She took her faith seriously and fought valiantly so she might get better. God had other plans for her and for us. He wanted her to come home.

Some of her family and friends kept constant vigil at the University of Minnesota Medical Center for five days and nights. We watched over her, cared for her, prayed for her and took care of countless details on behalf of her and her son, Jahmari, age 10.

We learned over the course of days that her cancer had spread like wild fire throughout her body giving her and her doctors no chance of overtaking it. She believed her God was bigger than the cancer. Her faith made it so difficult to grasp that she had worldly things she needed to tend to. It was a dilemna that was hard to reconcile. Why did her faith and real life seem so far apart? Would it mean she didn't believe strongly enough if she took steps to deal with life after death here on earth?

I am left with many questions. I am left with no immediate answers. I am left with unshed tears because of what I experienced in that hospital over so many days and nights. I am left with exhaustion and more miles to travel before this new road reaches a place of rest.

Each time I looked in the mirror at the hospital at a face that hadn't been washed for days and a body that had not slept for nights, I simply said.......

"You can do this. You CAN do this. You can DO this. YOU can do this." And, I did. And, I wish I had not had to.

I love you Briana, and I will miss you. I do miss you.

May you rest in peace in your new heavenly home and it was an honor and a privilege to be part of your journey home.

Love,
Judy

Briana Needs Prayers...My 35 Year Old Niece

Hi everyone.....it is with sadness and hope that I write this post. My niece, Briana, who is 35 years old and a single mother of a ten year old son, has just learned her cancer is spreading.

We need your prayers!

She was diagnosed in June of 2009 with uterine cancer. Cancer cells were also found in her ovaries and again in her stomach. We have learned tonight that her chemotherapy has not been working and several more tumors have grown.

We need your prayers!

She is at the University of Minnesota hospital and has been told she needs to make plans because she has a ten year old son. Her parents, my sister and brother-in-law, have been with Briana and her son for the week. I spoke with my sister and she said Briana is dehydrated and nauseous. The doctors are going to work out a chemo program that they hope will be effective.

We need your prayers!

I believe in the power of prayer. I am sending this post to all my friends and am asking you all to send it on to your friends and families and ask for their prayers.

We need your prayers!

Below are two pictures. One is of Briana with her mom, Linda. One is of Briana with my daughter, Sarah.

We need your prayers!

Briana and her mom, Linda, Christmas Day 2009

Briana with my daughter, Sarah

The Vikings Game Meets Technology

Yep...a Vikings game is no longer just a Vikings game! It is an international experience. Last nights Vikings/Saints game was a big game. The winner of that game would be heading off to the Super Bowl.

Tom and I wanted to share it with our friend, Joe from Ireland, because Joe is the only one of the three of us who actually owns a Vikings shirt.

So Joe could watch the game with us, I made a video call on Skype and set up my webcam so it would face the TV. In the blink of an eye Tom and I (in Minnesota) and Joe (in Ireland) were watching the Minnesota Vikings play the New Orleans Saints in New Orleans, Louisiana.

The miracle of techology made it all possible. Now Joe is a true Vikings fan as much as he is a Minnesota Twins fan.


Below are two videos of Tom, Joe and me watching the Vikings/Saints game last night. We missed you for the second half Joe!





What a fun night despite the ending!

Albino Squirrel

The other day I was sitting at the kitchen table looking out the patio door. It is my favorite view. I can get lost in my thoughts until something catches my eye and brings me back to the moment.

On this day, a few days ago, I saw the first albino squirrel I had ever seen in our back yard. It was cool!

Tom had his camera at the ready so he is the one who got the picture and took the video. I am glad he did! I must remember the rule in this house. Always have your camera ready because you never know what you are going to see.

Lunch With Davey (Punkin To Me)

Today was a special day! Punkin called me this morning and was so excited. He said they were having our special lunch at school today....

Tomato Soup
Grilled Cheese Sandwiches
Baby Carrots
Goldfish Cheese Crackers
Fruit
Milk (we always pick chocolate)

He wanted me to come to school and have lunch with him. I was concerned about the weather turning bad and the roads not being good. He understood. I suggested a Plan B.

Plan B was to see if I had all those foods in my pantry and I would make the same lunch at home and we could talk about it all later when he got home from school.

So, Punkin, look and see what gramma did!

I went shopping at Rainbow and got EVERYTHING I needed just so you and I could have lunch together!

I love you Punkin! Here are some videos to watch of gramma making lunch and some pictures to show you as I ate it. I invited grandpa too and he was my friend at lunch.









And, here are the pictures.......lunch was so good...I just loved it! You can see in the pictures that I loved every single bite!

Mmmmm Mmmmm Good...Mmmmmm Mmmmm Good...that's what Campbell's soup is...

Mmmmmm Mmmmmmm Good!







Thank you Punkin! I had such a good time having lunch with you! Love, gramma

Simple Natural Fun In Ireland March 2009

You know, it is not everyone who would allow the world to see such simple and natural fun, especially at this hour of the night. But, there is something about the sheer joy of being yourself and daring to share it with those who just might appreciate it.

I hope whoever sees this enjoys it! It was so nice to be so relaxed and playful and have so much fun! That was three so's in that last sentence so I must really mean it : )

Two Videos Of Jackson Walking And Derek Talking

Davey had a doctor's appointment this morning and Sarah asked if I could help. I met them out at the clinic and stayed with Derek and Jackson in the waiting room while Sarah took Davey into the doctor's office. Davey is fine...just an infection that showed up as a red rash. He has some medication and it is getting better.

Here are some pictures of Jackson. Do you believe how big he is getting?




And, here are a couple of videos of Jackson at the doctor's office while Derek, Jackson and I were waiting for Davey and Sarah. Where does the time go? It was just yesterday, wasn't it, that I first said hello to him minutes after he was born? How could it be that that first hello was fifteen months ago!

If you listen to what Derek is saying in one video, you will learn that boys are he's and girls are she's and he's have a team and she's have a team. Made me smile.

Twins Spokesman...None Better!

I had to share this! My friend, Joe from Ireland, created this video with some new software and it is fabulous! He took video of Tom's and cut it and inserted the clip of Jackson. Amazing!

When Joe was here this summer one of the things we did was go to a twins game. It was Jackson's second twins game believe it or not. Joe bought Jackson his little Twins outfit for his first birthday in June. He is a true Twins fan from the inside out.

I hope you enjoy the video. I can't stop watching it!